As things are looking up, are you feeling withdrawals?

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Mornings are my favorite time of day.

I take my time making my coffee, tie on my cozy bathrobe, and take a seat at my desk…my dog curled up at my feet.

This year I relished in my mornings reading the news.

I scrolled and clicked for hours, exploring all types of news platforms, and shared links back and forth with my friends.

It was exciting and being up just before sunrise, I loved the feeling of getting the freshest Breaking News as the world still slept.

My husband would sleepily walk into the kitchen to prepare his own coffee and find me, his wife, in a frenzy — hunched over the computer in a fluffy robe. Before he could sit and enjoy his morning drink, I’d be pummeling him with headlines I read that morning. …

“It’s so good to finally see you!” *drools*

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I wish someone had prepared me for my first social interaction — away from my computer screen.

It was comforting seeing my own face in the Brady Bunch grid, having the option of not wearing pants, and being able to shut my laptop or clock an exit button if I needed a breather from a conversation.

But now, with new guidelines in place, we have more options to safely socialize outside the confines of a zoom call or text thread. …

…how I stopped wasting time, chasing ‘skinny’

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In 2009, a reporter asked model and actress Kate Moss what her life-mantra was. She replied, “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.” I was 18 when I read this, a highly impressionable teen, and this mantra stuck with me.

It inspired a core belief that lasted almost a decade: to be happy, I had to be skinny.

Over the years, I went on countless diets: Weight Watchers, Atkins, Keto, High Protein, Intermittent Fasting, The Apple and Water Diet, The Master Cleanse…if you’ve heard about it on Doctor Oz, I’ve tried it. …

That friend who is a little ‘TMI’ is actually good for your soul.

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We all have our select group of girl friends… Maybe yours is a mixture of long distance friends, drinking buddies, coworkers, shopping friends, or even just fair-weather acquaintances.

However you classify your girls, The Beatles’s wise words ring especially true in the cluster f%*k that is, the year 2020: we get by with a little help from our friends.

There are 5 ‘types’ of girl friends I believe to be particularly crucial to survival and even personal growth this year and any year... Here’s the breakdown:

  1. THE MOM

If your head is hanging over the toilet, she’d holding your hair. When you’re getting ready to go out, she’s handing you your forgotten wallet. If you’re going through a tough time, she’s got a soft way of reminding you that you’re loved. Always the responsible one, she makes the reservations, handles group Venmos, and tells you when your shirt is a little inappropriate for the in-laws. …

Feeling stuck in a rut? Get ‘un-stuck’ with these quick exercises…

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We all feel stuck sometimes. Stuck on a breakup, stuck on a math problem, stuck on what word to use or what gift to buy someone. The quickest way to re-motivate and charge into action is by asking someone to hold that feeling for us, even just for a moment, and giving someone else a chance to be the external motivator we might subconsciously be craving.

We can often get stuck in our own narrative of the “I don’t want to,” and the “I can’t.” For example, if you text a friend to say something like, “I don’t want to go for my run today,” this is an example of breaking the narrative and sharing your ‘stuck-ness.’ …

It’s spooky season and it’s time you two had a chat.

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We tend to write what we know. Ergo, I write about anxiety, because I know anxiety.

Anxiety greets everyone differently and takes different forms. It might come in an instant random pang and then in a snap, it’s gone. It may crescendo, then taper off like the sting after a tequila shot. Or, it might only come at night, waiting for you, like a monster under your bed.

If you’ve experienced anxiety, you know the drill…Racing thoughts, irrational fears, crippling insecurity, sweaty palms, self-doubt, shame — an unrelenting and often undefinable origin that elicits a cocktail of emotions. …

Be a caretaker of your own thoughts — and starve the ones that are holding you back.

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Humans have, on average, about 80,000 thoughts everyday. That means about 2,500–3,300 thoughts per hour- just about 50 thoughts per minute.

That is A LOT of neurons firing at once. YOWZA.

So, unless you have the introspection power of a Buddhist Monk, our minds lack the capacity to experience and interpret each of these 80,000 thoughts effectively. …

Those push notifications are eroding humanity — and I guess we’re okay with that?

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Top image from Bethesda Magazine | Bottom image from The Daily Mail

I’m sure you’ve heard the buzz on the new Netflix sensation, “The Social Dilemma.” It takes a deep and controversial dive into the dark truths of human connection (or rather, enslavement) to our phones and social media.

The reel is peppered with commentary from Silicon Valley’s finest tech-heads, ethics conductors, and ex-executives of household social media and Big Tech companies — facebook, twitter, google, to name a few. It’s fair to say the producers did their homework in accrediting the incendiary documentary.

The takeaway and pretty obvious bottomline of the…

If you still think sugary cereal is the worst way to start your morning, read this.

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You read the headline, so I’m going to jump right into it.

8:00am: Wake up to the alarm on my phone.

I hit snooze, but I see 3 notification banners on my locked home screen:

A New York Times headline on a new incriminating thing Trump has done…Free People clothing, nudging me to check out their new Fall coat collectionLinkedIn, alerting me of two new connection requests.

8:01am: Sleepy-eyed, I click the NYT headline and spend 10 minutes scrolling through the article — and a four others that were ‘suggested for me.’ …

Astounding — how adulthood can deter us from our passions.

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My husband and I spent the first few months of the pandemic quarantining in my parents house- the house I grew up in.

After a few days working from home, I received a dreaded call from my boss. The market was suffering and they had to let me go. I had been working in a sales corporate job for years now and as I scrambled to find my next gig, I started reflecting on my career path.

As I navigated all the emotions tethered to losing a job, my husband painted a silver lining for me (he’s very good at this). He encouraged me to use the extra time I had to return to my first love… writing. …


Kat Merry

Writer: [[The Innovation • The Parables • Pets]] — & Official dabbler in life-hacking...Writing is my favorite form of exercise.

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